Hi sisters, this probably seems petty and unnecessary, however im having some hypothetical name drama. I'm in a long term relationship, (mixed family), and the surnames goes like this; (obviously changed)
My maiden name: smith
My married name: brown
My kids name: brown
My partners name: Williams
My partners kid name: jones-Williams
Now, I'm currently still using my married name, just because it's easier than changing everything and I don't feel affiliated to my maiden name. However, if I were to remarry, my partner has said he would prefer for me to have my maiden name hyphenated with his name, or as a second choice, his name. I feel like I'm losing my name tie with my kids and that they would feel left out, as my stepchild and I would share a name but they wouldn't share a name with me.
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Mum don't feel bad. I married... My kids have a different last name to me now. But we honestly don't think much of it. They've always been "Smith" I've always been vella, now I'm Andersen and share the same last name as my step kids. I don't even think about it to be honest
I don't have the same last name as my kids (divorced). My baby will have my partners last name which it will share with his bio daughter, so there will be 3 last names in our house and to be honest, it's not that big a deal :) my kids don't care that the baby will have a different last name to them-after all it will have a different one to me as well!
His preference??!
Keep your name and your kids name! And tell him YOUR preference is he takes your and your kids name, or at least hyphenates it!!