Judge me if you must. I have a 9 month old and a 2 year old. Husband works late, so witch hour I'm left by myself. And I absolutely hate bed time routine. That whole 3 hours that takes me to: prepare dinner (while trying to keep them entertained), feed them, bath and bed (2 year old fall a sleep by herself but 9 months can take me up to 30-40 minutes to make him fall a sleep). Besides all this, I don't know why but my kids are LOUD. They cry and talk very loud. I've seen other kids cry and it sounds like a little squick. Not mine, since birth they had a very high pitched cry. It drives me crazy some days. Miss 2 year old specially, she does not accept no for an answer. Then it all starts again with cryiling (crying + yelling). What to do? Am I alone?
Ps: hubby getting another job is out of the picture, self employed :'-(
Some days I hate being a mum
Some days I hate being a mum
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I'm with you I hate that part of day. You know why, because you do it every. Single. Day.
I've given up on cooking big meals, dinner is simple dinners, they love it eat it all makes it a bit easier. Try something different, a later dinner out or late walk or swim so they're asleep driving home. I dunno, but you're not alone!
No judgment here! Some days I hate it too. I love my girl more than life itself but some days it's like "If she says "Muuuuuuum!" one more time I am going to lose it and run away!"
I have no real suggestions here but just a post of solidarity. Big hugs xxx
Oh nooooo, you are not alone. See what you can do to ease it though, you've identified this is the shit-time so make it easier for yourself. First, prep dinner early. Do as much as you can during naptime, I know you want to do other stuff but this one will pay off. Defrost meat, peel and cut veg etc or better yet learn to love your slow cooker every single day. Chuck everything in at breakfast time and dinner just needs to be dished up when you're ready. Don't fight over dinner time, make it fun and casual so they aren't getting wound up. Add a good quality water soluble lavender oil to the bath water, smells nice and promotes sleep, for the 9 month old J&J used to do a lavender bathtime soap in a pump bottle that I loved. Then when it comes to sleep the two year old going to sleep by herself is great, and taking a while for the 9 month old is pretty normal really. For miss two, you have heard of the terrible two's yeah? Be consistent and she'll learn tantrums don't get her anywhere but it takes time for this to sink in. Be calm, don't let her get to you and you'll win. Good luck mumma, I actually think despite how sucky it feels right now you've pretty well got this down pat!
I went to uni to get away and do something for myself. I enjoy my child more and am a better mum for it. I couldn't me a full time mum and I am starting to be ok with that.