Hi mums here's the third and final update on my step daughter. She has left. She is living with her mother... No fighting no arguments no nothing. It's been great. Now before all these mums jump on me asking why I give up I'll give you a run down. About 3 years ago a family friend of my husband's coached the child into saying her brother touched her (this all come to light this weekend). The family friend had two reasons. 1 she had a crush on my husband and by doing this caused a massive issue and she was hoping he would be with her and number 2 because she was on drugs. The past 18 months haven't been easy.. step child had made up allegations of me and her father bashing her, she sworn at me more times than I can count and she has lied through her teeth about anyone and everyone. The final decision was when she told her mother her father touched her... Complete and utter joke. Dad confronted her and she said she told the lies because she told lies about her brother (not my husband's son) and it would make her mum feel better. So he made her go. Since she left hubby hasn't wanted contact. She is supposed to come down in the holidays but told her sister she doesn't want to see us anymore which is fine by me. Our family counsiler also told us to cut contact until she is being treated and diagnosed. It's been better without her here I must say. I don't ever want her to come down again with the lies she is telling about us. What would you guys do? Make her stay there with no contact to teach her a lesson or allow her down for holidays? Also been informed she is pulling the same shit on mums partner as she did on me.
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I hope to god you're right about her lieing, how devastating for her if she's telling the truth! Not a risk id be comfortable taking, just assuming a child is lieing about something so serious
We know this is a lie. One because she told the doctors this once we had her assessed and two because she wanted attention. We haven't just assumed anything. Hence why my husband spent 3+ years and 135K fighting for her.
Just because she told the dr she lied doesn't actually mean she was lying, especially if it was you or her husband who took her there
Kids usually try to "get attention" when they actually need attention, I hope she can find someone safe who will really listen to whatever she's trying to say, lie or not
We actually didn't take her... Her ICL and docs took her. See it's judgemental fucking morons like you who believe bullshit that cause problems. For 3 years we believed her. All to be found a lie! We also had reports from her family case worker that her mother took her too saying she had lied! So does that mean we are all trying to harm her? If you're insinuating my husband touched her think again. We have 5 girls together... Not once has he tried to interfere with any of them. Fuck off
None of you deserve this girl
Your attitude is disgusting
She's a child
Truth or lies, she's trying to tell you something and sounds like NO ONE is listening
Too busy bitching about how much trouble she is and how much money she's costing you
If her mother coached her, she doesn't deserve her either
And yes, expect a lot more "judgemental morons" when this post hits fb
Wow! How's the weather up there? Get off your high horse love! FFS people like you make me sick with all your assumptions & judgemental tirades! Grow the hell up & troll somewhere else, your nasty bullshit isn't needed here! GO AWAY
Agree this kid needs love and help and to have a place in the world I feel awfully sad for her
I'm sorry but how does showing this little shit love help the parents! They clearly showed her love and through it back in their face. She sounds ungrateful. I've followed this mums posts! I feel for her. She tried. Not once but for a couple of years! So please tell me how they can help her further? The husband going to jail over her making up lies? Mum you've done a great job. She will learn!
Oh Hun. Just relax and enjoy the peace. I totally understand the weight that has been lifted.
As for her lying. How horrible. She is still a child but she's old enough to know better. The fact that it's such a serious lie means there has to be consequences. Your husband must be so hurt that his own daughter has done this. I think the space is definitely needed.
She needs to reflect on what she's done. She's hurt people. She's selfish. She's manipulative. That's not on.
Maybe this isn't the final installment?
I wouldn't allow her down for the holidays. No way!
Thanks mum. I'm glad it's finally over. Let's just hope this is the final installment. I'm done with her drama.
If you make up false allegations as an adult you can get charged, lies have consequences and it doesn't matter what age a person is, lying to that degree is unacceptable behaviour. She definitely needs to be checked for mental health issues, she's obviously been manipulated by this family friend and that damage needs to be mended. If you have her for the holidays your husband and yourself need to have a good chat with her about the impact of her lies, if not, enjoy the peace!