I have 2 little boys to my ex (3 &1) and he has a son (8) from a previous relationship.
We don't have any agreements written up just verbal at the moment but he has decided it is to hard to have the 3 of thrm on his own and wants 1 of my boys to go one weekend and the other to go the next. This makes me mad for the fact that my children will never have a weekend together. Does anyone know if there is anything to say each parent gets a weekend with the children.
I am making an appointment today to get something in writing.
Thank you for any advice
Co parenting
Co parenting
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I would say no, because my ex takes them separately he thinks he helping me because he takes oldest for a big play. Pfft to that. Do the hard parenting like I do and give me the break too. This way I never get a break, to be alone. Give him one weekend a fortnight with them both & the opportunity that if he can't cope to return the youngest on Sunday morning or something like that, so he loses his time but doesn't get to mess with your time.
I'd say no. He should switch the weekend than and have his eldest one weekend and your two the other. There his children he can look after them.
I would also say no... He needs a reality check. Nothing about parenting is easy but he needs to take care of the responsibilities.
Pfftttt, if I can manage to raise my 4 children on my own with no help from either father involved he should be able to handle 3 kids for a weekend. Tell him to bloody man up. It's really not that hard. Stick to your guns.
Just curious, if this was woman saying she is finding it hard with 3 children would we be all caring and nurturing? This could be his cry for help. Maybe we could suggest some alternatives to help him have the 3 children at the same time. Maybe enlist some help for a few hours from a friend or relative or professional. I am sure he would love to enjoy his children all at once but could be a little overwhelmed. Surely once he has the know how/tools he would be fine.
I know of men that have no problems with 3 children on wknds and i know of men that struggle with one.
If he had them full time, yes. He has them two days of every 14. If he's finding it hard, he needs to find help, enlist his mother, a babysitter, friends, all the suggestions we would give a struggling mother, Not say too hard and put the problem back on the mother. Why should he get to do that to her?
It's fun and nice to have one at a time, but it's not parenting.