I'm burnt out and exhausted and ready to pack my bags and walk!!! Until I recently read an article about mums who take a 'holiday/break' with no kids or partners! I read it and thought THATS MY KIND OF BLISS!
So now that school holidays are nearing the end and I'm over the fighting, bickering, hitting, squabbling etc etc, me wanting a 3 day break is looking even more appealing!
Hubby gets his weekends away fishing or with the boys so I'm more than entitled!
My question is 1- how do I deal with the guilt of leaving my kids that the money I use could go to other things like swimming lessons etc and 2- does anyone know of somewhere nice and tranquil to go (I'm near Tamworth nsw)
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I can deal with the guilt issue :)
The kids NEED a happy, rested, mentally healthy mum. They need a mum who isn't burnt out, they deserve a mum who isn't burnt out. They deserve and need to know that dad can look after them just fine. They need to know that as adults it is a good idea to look after themselves too. They need to know when they grow up and have kids of there own that they need to be there own person too, not just mum or dad. They need to know that when they grow up they don't have to give up everything to have kids and that its ok to put themselves first sometimes.
This is a really important lesson for your kids.
PS my mum took a holiday every year on her own and so did my dad. That might just have been staying at there parents to be a kid again. We had a great time while they were away because it was a kind of holiday for us too, just doing things differently.
I try and take one every year but am not as dedicated it. It always does me the world of good.
I have gone on short holidays with friends twice ( my sons 4) I did feel really guilty and wanted to stay but my mum pushed me out the door and says it's important to have a break. have your break :) you deserve it
Agree with the other posters. Google Clarence River. Just saw it on TV the other night. Near you and looks amazingly relaxing :)
Guilt will go with practice. I actually had a lot of counselling that helped me realise that I needed to do stuff for me every now and then. I was putting all my energy into one basket and I was burning out. I have done Hawaii (that was a bit of an extra special thing, it was 10 days and I don't think I would go away that long again until the kidlet is older); Busselton (south of Perth, WA) - a girlfriend and I hit the wineries for a long weekend; 3 nights in Darwin with two of my girlfriends (we hired a car and explored one of the National Parks and made sure to include a boozy night out with hangover recovery time ); and I am doing Bali for 5 days this year with 2 other single mummy friends. (I realise this sounds like a lot but its been over the course of 10 years lol!) It is amazing how refreshed and more able to cope you feel. We aren't just mums, we are people too. It could be good bonding time for your kids with their dad too :)