This is driving me insane. Hubby has basically no sex drive. He is in his mid 20s. We havent had sex in 5 months. 5!!! He refuses to go to councilling or to the doctors to get checked out. He gives the same excuse. "I dont feel like it" i have a high sex drive (higher since giving birth). Every time i bring it up he shuts down. Im over it! The kicker to this is he keeps telling me he despirately wants another child. I tell him we need to have sex for that!
I told him today that im beginning to resent him because of this. Needless to say that didnt go down well. But its the truth! I dont expect sex every day but a couple of times a week would be nice! (Yes i have told him this)
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I'm like your partner, i have very little sex drive but i still put out on average twice a week. Once i get into it i enjoy it. I just never feel like it. Can you try and work him up with foreplay? Offer to do all the work?
I really hope he seeks medical advice because it's not overly common for a guy of his age to not want it and 5 months is a long time. Best of luck chick, i really hope it's resolved. Sex is definitely a very important part of your relationship.
I am in the same situation you are and it sucks! It makes me feel so unwanted. I have told my partner that I find it unfair how I'm constantly running after everyone, making sure everyone is fed and dressed and has everything else they need, yet when it comes to my needs I get told "I can't be bothered".
I've tried just giving him a surprise bj or handy but that just makes him reject me more. I think sex is very important in a relationship, without it you're basically just roommates. I hope it changes for you soon.
Have you tried just snuggling without any expectations? Also having a chat when he is feeling comfortable and not feeling judged or pressured might get him to talk about what the root problem is (no pun intended) be gentle with him, there might be more to the issue than what you see on the surface. Good luck honey.
My EX husband didn't want sex with me once I fell pregnant with our daughter, he said I became a mother to him and that was it. I used to beg him to sleep with me I wanted that intimacy, he said he didn't have a sex drive, turned out he did but just at the brothels and not with me and with porn when I would do the groceries or leave the house.
Not saying that is what your husband is doing, but I know the feeling of not being wanted.