I just need to get something off my chest....
I am 27 years old & I'm starting to remember parts of my childhood I had obviously hid away..
My sisters are 9 and 10 years older then me & I remember them sexually abusing me. They never did anything to me, but they made me do things to them. I've started to remember being pushed under the blankets and made to put my mouth places it shouldn't have gone.
I feel dirty and gross & I remember feeling this way back then and them telling me that I can't tell anyone..
I don't have a relationship with either of them now, it's always been rocky like they wanted to keep me away.
What I guess I'm asking is, what do I do now?? I feel like I need it to be brought to their attention, or even tell my Dad? I just worry I won't be taken seriously like it's too late?
I haven't told anyone these memories I'm having because I feel like it was my fault.
Please help me, I don't know where to go from here.
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I think you should start with a counsellor who is experienced in sexual abuse before deciding what to do. The counsellor can help you with those feelings of guilt and help you find a way to speak out about what happened, when yo hard ready. Your GP should be able to point you in the right direction regarding counsellors in your area.
It's never too late Hun :( I'm sorry this happened to you. If you feel you need to speak to your dad maybe that would be good for you as it seems like you really want to talk to family about it and feel some support from them. If your still a little worried at this stage speak to a doctor and maybe eventually bring your dad to a therapy meeting to speak to him about it.
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I am sorry you went through this, I think it should be brought to their attention and tell them what you remember and you don't agree with what they did to you. Give the pain you have held onto for so many year back to them.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I think you need to see a sexual assault counsellor so you can work through everything, they can help you and explore how you'd like to proceed for you future, there is light at the end of the tunnel, you are a survivor xxx
I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I think you need to see a sexual assault counsellor so you can work through everything, they can help you and explore how you'd like to proceed for you future, there is light at the end of the tunnel, you are a survivor xxx
Omg I thought I was alone. I had a similar experience with my older sister.. I still feel sick to this day about it.i was about 6 or 7 with no idea what was happening (shes 2 years older) and iv never told a soul I'm now 31. You give me courage to speak out. Thankyou for sharing.
I dont mean to sound naive but if you were 6 and they were 9 or 10 is it a police matter? (fb responses sage were say go to the police)
I hope you can find some support to deal with this dreadful situation.
Yes it is because children that young are often put on the sexual offender lists (not always right) and if they were doing this as old as they were I would be worried if anyone else was involved. Maybe even they were sexually asulted and there's someone they need to tell the police about
I feel your pain Hun the same thing was done to me when I was a child although thankfully my sister never made me put my mouth anywhere but she used to make me lie on top of her as she would rub herself in me. It still makes me cringe to this day what she did to me. I still see her all the time and hold a lot of resentment toward her as she took away my childhood and I lost all trust in her. I've never been able to tell my parents either not because they wouldn't believe me but I'm scared of how they would react with both of us. my parents always wonder what they did wrong for me to be so resentful toward her but it's my secret that's holding me back. You need to do what you feel is right. If that means talking to your family then please do it. Don't hide it any longer if it's affecting you more and more. Good luck.
I'm so sorry you went through this!! My partner was abused by his basketball coach when he was 13...he's 40 now and court proceedings are starting soon. Its never to late hun!! It happened and it affected you and your life greatly. Get the closure you need xx