So I really am not sure where I want/need to start..... I am married to my husband have 2 children 1 of which is a very defiant and angry little person, and literally does my head in (to the point I am just about done, tried so many things but nothing and I mean nothing has worked so I headed to the doctor and said I physically and mentally can not deal with this anymore) although our child has just now started seeing someone about behaviour and everything else going on this decision is against my husband's wishes he thinks I am looking for a problem that is not there.... I don't know what else to do I know I should probably see someone as well (also suggested by doctor) but I just can't bring myself to do that, what if I do and I realize I am not cut out to be a mum or wife or what if I realize I don't love my husband or that I resent him, I take my vows very seriously and would never break them my husband knows this even if he cheated he knows I would want to work things out.
My husband hates how I am such a generous person and thinks I do everything for everyone except our children and him. He does not really get along with my family and only ever has negative and not so nice things to say about them and never goes to family gatherings.... I try not to let it affect me BUT it does it hurts it is like a little of me dies each time.... how do I get past this how do I except that my husband is never going to like my family? I feel terrible when ever our kids bring up my side of the family around him as I know he won't like anything the kids have to say about them. I don't know how to move forward I seem stuck.
Help feeling lost...
Help feeling lost...
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Relationships & Marriage, Parenthood Guilt, Behaviour, Kids
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Your over thinking the counselling. Go, you'll talk about your life, you'll discuss practical ways to cope with life, that's it. It's just holding a conversation not someone implanting ideas in your head. It will be far more effective than trying to get answers from the Internet :)
You're not alone in feeling that way about your son. I have felt like that at times too. We had a few really rough years with him. I knew something wasn't right but my husband wouldn't admit it. I pushed until I found a doctor who took me seriously & we finally got all his assessments done.
During that time I had days & weeks & months where I felt like you do right now. I had to force myself to go to see a councillor. It was the best thing I could do though hun. Let it out to someone who isn't biased. Who is an objective 3rd party. They can help you learn how to process your feelings etc & manage things. And if nothing else, give you a shoulder to cry on. It will pass! It can take ages but it can't stay like it forever. Stay strong & get the help you need for yourself too. You'll be a better mum & wife for it too. Xx