Pregnant with 4th child. Im 36 kids are 15,8 and 2. No father involved no issue with that.
The only issue I have is telling my family. I can't deal with the nasty comments. The crap that will come from them. They'll say I'm stupid dum and a lot of other things. I pay my bills. I look after my kids. My eldest even has a job. I won't get a congratulations or and happy comments. Any ideas how to tell them?
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I am in the same boat. 34 and pregnant with my 4th. I have told 1/2 of my family (the ones I knew wouldn't judge to harshly) via message with the 1st ultrasound pic found it easier that if they had anything negative to say I wouldn't hear it straight away haha but have not told my father and his family unit due to the negativity I know I will hear. I'm scared to tell him because I know his reply will be abortion which is not happening, for some reason him and I haven't spoken in over 6 months anyway so makes it alittle easier for me. I have no idea how to tell him. Sounds stupid being an adult afraid to tell them something that's so exciting knowing all I'll get is negativity.
Can you put off telling them for a while? There really is no need to involve them if you dont have to. Ive known women who havent told anyone til they were 5 or 6 months. It will give you more time to wrap your head around it, it will cut out any 'abortion talk' and also more time to figure out the answers to their questions.
You could do a cute facebook announcement, you know where you take a photo of baby shoes or something and write 'coming soon' or whatever. Or you could send the pic via text, that way you wont have to see/hear their first reactions and hopefully by the time you see them they will have had time for it to sink in and they may just say congrats.
Goodluck
Don't. I told mine last. I told my friends, the family I wanted to tell, I made it public on social media, talking about it, THEN I told my assy family. And some I never told face to face I guess they figured it out.
They got the hint I wasn't interested in their opinion or involvement. I was much happier that way.