This is going to sound really harsh, this post isn't coming from a bitchy place, it's coming from a concerned 'help me' place.
I have a daughter who is about to turn 13 and is so ditzy! A real air head. Don't worry, I've never said it out loud, nor will I.
Is really worrying me. She doesn't have any intellectual disability, but does some really silly (WTF?!) things.
A perfect example happened tonight; I mentioned that I needed to de-head the dead flowers off the daisy bushes. My daughter showed some interest in it, so I offered for her to do the job for some pocket money. She came inside every few minutes complaining about one thing or another; I offered her to just leave it several times but she said she wanted the money. I went out there once and show her how to do the job quickly and easily. Soon later she came in and said he'd finished. I went out to see how she went AND SHE BROKE THE ALL THE PLANTS OFF AT THE ROOTS AND THREW THEM IN THE BIN! When I asked why she'd done that, she just said that she thought it would be easier than cutting the dead flowers off. I explained that this was not what I asked and now she's killed about 8 established plants. She was really shocked to be told that she wasn't getting paid for this and that she'd done the wrong thing.
This kind of thing is happening every day. She is almost 13 - not 5 years old. She should know better. I am a hands on parent, as is her dad and have no clue as to why our daughter has zero insight. I've asked if she's doing this in defiance, thinking maybe hormonal rebellion, but she completely denies it and seems shocked that I would suggest that.
I think its more than laziness, but there's definitely an element of laziness.
Our daughter is about to start high school and I'm worried about her.
Any (kind) advice would be appreciated.
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How frustrating! I can sympathize, my daughter is also an airhead and we regularly have a giggle about some of the really weird things she says. I have also had the niggle in the back of my mind 'could there be something amiss?' But at the end of the day I think she is just your classic, stereotypical 'blonde'. She is incredibly gullible and naive and takes everything literally. She is 15 and so far not showing many signs of growing out of it!
Sorry, not much help but just wanted you to know you're not alone!
Speak with her teacher, they know lots about age and development and have seen lots and also have great contacts and resources if that's what you need.
I'd probably also take her to the gp. It's one of those things you can't really ask her as she won't have the insight so it's worth getting her checked over.
Personally I would encourage some independent and critical thinking, games, puzzles, daily duties, set small tasks such as this and then talk it through with her, but don't give her the answer, lead her and get her to think it through so she reaches the answer by herself.
This may sound extreme but take her to a psychologist for an assessment. You don't have to have an intellectual disability to have a learning disorder or neurological difference!
It sounds like she has trouble with thinking things through w d being logical. That can be taught. It also can be a sign of add (non hyperactive) if she is impulsive??? It's all worth sussing out.
It's also a symptom of anxiety, I as an adult didn't know that's what what wrong with me, it shows in symptoms that you feel without you really knowing why. and I'm sure other things a professional will help unravel what you're dealing with. As well it could be normal development, a professional will also be able to reassure you.
What other things does she do? That are ditsy?