So I feel completely awful!! I have my son every second year for Christmas and he is 6 years old so we are right into all things Santa including all the Christmas Eve pre-Santa preparations.
My new partner, who I have been with for over 2 years, has a couple kids who live 1.5 hours away and are single and over 18. I had been asking what they had organized with the kids over Christmas over the past two weeks with no plans made, or so I thought.
Yesterday they said to me that they are going to see their children today (Christmas Eve) and asked what time my family are starting things on Christmas Day and then announces that I should expect them to return mid-morning tomorrow (Christmas Day). I had asked all year for the kids to come to our house for Christmas to be told that they didn't want this and I was fine with that. We didn't see them at all last Christmas either. The kids don't make a lot of effort at all when it comes to my new partner and special occasions like birthday, Christmas etc. Usually a phone call is all that happens so I feel I was justified in thinking that there would be no get togethers and that my son and I would have my new partner all to ourselves on Christmas Eve/Morning.
I now feel terrible because I am slightly angry and upset that after trying all year to make plans that my partner spends time with their kids over Christmas and finally settling on having just my partner around on Christmas Eve and Christmas Morning to enjoy the excitement that you only see in a six year old, that everything has just been flipped on its head and now its just the two of us until we see my family at lunchtime.
Should I be more upset? Less upset? I'm trying to not let it affect me and enjoy being with my son but can't help but be disappointed that we have been pushed down the priority list so suddenly.
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Sorry I can't follow your post, but I gather your partner is leaving you and your child alone on Christmas morning, and hes going to go visit his children? And grandchildren?
Whatever it is, my advice is to be less upset. It's Christmas, don't have expectations, don't put too much importance on any moment, just enjoy it all. You'll enjoy seeing your 6 year old face more than anyone else, enjoy that and it'll be really special to be able to have that time alone together before all the rest show up.
Be exited for your partner, you will have an amazing time with your boy.
Hello Anonymous - Kelly here. Did you still need this question posted? How did the day go? x