I don't know what to do about my husband and my almost 3 year old. He's not my sons biological father and he's been in our lives since my son was 6 months old.
My son can be difficult but that's normal toddler behavior. My son doesn't listen to my husband though. They seem to clash if that makes sense. My boys being very disobedienct at the moment with yelling/screaming /not going to bed etc.
My husband's getting really frustrated and just flys off the handle. The other day he smacked my son and I was really angry that he did that as I choose not to smack my kids.
Just now he went off because my son tipped water into the floor (on purpose). He was jusy yelling at my son, saying he's the naughtiest kid and he can't stand him and he can't put up with this. He was really angry throwing stuff around the house swearing etc.
I'm so upset because my little boy was upset and keeps talking about himself as a "naughty boy/bad boy". I'm so worried that there's going to be a constant battle between them and I'm also worried that my son is going to be damaged by this and think he's a bad child. I feel like Ihave to be there always to protect my son and defend him.
I don't know what to do. Please help.
**edit my husband feels awful about his behavior, he eventually apologized to my son and admits he needs help because he hates feeling like this***
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Firstly you are right to be worried. You need to find out if your husband sees a problem with his behaviour. If he doesn't see a problem with his own behaviour you need to end things now, because he is damaging your child and it isn't possible to change someone's behaviour if they can't see a problem with there behaviour.
That may sound harsh to some but when we bring kids if that child is being damaged by new partners then the child has to absolutely be put first.
Um yeah that's awful behaviour towards a child. No idea what to do about him, send him for a parenting course? Counseling? You're right you can't leave your son with him until this is sorted out. You need to remove your son from a situation like that it would be terrifying I know it was for me when my ex did it and I'm a grown up. Remove him and if it repeats you have a duty to protect your son from exposure to that.