I'm currently a mum of two beautiful children one is 2 the other is 1. I would love to have another baby as soon as possible for a variety of reasons some being they'll all be close in age, I'm in my early 20's so why not have them now get the sleepless nights over and done with.
We can afford it financial we own our house (well paying for it anyway) my husband works full time and we have a great life for parents in their 20's but my husband wants to wait 10 years which is fair enough but I'll be in my early 30's wanting to go back to work and hopefully sleep again. Every time I talk to him about it we end up fighting he wants to wait but he doesn't have to be pregnant and deal with what happens to a woman's body and emotions, he gets to sleep all night. I just feel like giving up on my dreams of having 2 more children. ( Yes to the people who are going to say I should be greatful for my 2 I have now but I feel like I'm not done having children)
Desperately wanting baby number three
Desperately wanting baby number three
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You are right, you are the one that has to carry the pregnancy etc, but that doesn't mean hubby doesn't have his own pressures and very good, valid reasons for not wanting anymore yet. Talk to him, understand what they are. I can think of 100 reasons why anyone might not want to have 3 little ones close together and not want to be rushed into a third child. He might feel left out, he might feel overwhelmed already, he might feel nervous about the future. He might not like the noise little kids make. What ever it is figure it out, don't argue about what you want, try and understand and listen to why he wants to wait.
Finishing a family is not a race, take your time, enjoy each stage as it comes. 3 under 5 is bloody hard work, and you have plenty of time up your sleeve.
Don't push it. Wait for him to be ready, too. It's your body, but it's both of your family. I'd hedge my bet that he'll be ready a lot sooner than 10 years. 1 & 2 is a stressful age. He may be feeling it more than you.