I've never asked a question on here before....but I really am wanting others opinions and didn't know who else to ask...
I have 5 children...I do most definitely want more. However, both hubby and I agreed that we should wait a few years before having another. In that time I have been desperately trying to lose weight - I've lost about 30% of what I hope to lose. I have just booked a belated honeymoon for hubby and I in early 2017 (he finally agreed - he is a bit of a hermit :-) ). Talking to him the other day, I told him I really didn't want to fall pregnant before then because it would probably mean we would have to cancel/postpone it. Now we have been super careful - contraceptions don't like my body, I've had a quite a few nasty reactions to them - so, as I was saying, we have been careful for him not to ejaculate inside of me. Well today, it almost seemed like he was determined to do nothing but do that...so there is a small risk that I could fall pregnant from this.
Now my problem isn't with the falling pregnant part - I'd really be delighted in having another. My problem is with us being super careful for so long....and now that I have plans that could be upset by another child, it didn't seem to matter. Or am I just confusing myself? Could it be that perhaps he is just tired of ejaculating everywhere else...hmmmmm. I really do want to ask him...but to be honest...I'm more terrified of his answer than of having children! lol
Thanks for your answers
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If you are trying not to fall pregnant using the withdrawal method is doomed for failure anyway. There can be escapee sperm wether he cums in side of you or not. Plus most guys really suck using this method, it kind of ruins the moment withdrawing.
Surely condoms would be a better option if you don't want to get pregnant right now?
Hi, we are not actually using the withdrawal method....we just have sex for a while and then use other methods for 'getting him off' (and I really hated the need to write that but couldn't think of another phase that suited my meaning). As I said, it isn't the falling or not falling pregnant I have the issue with, it is the thought process....why now? Is it he has suddenly decided he doesn't want to wait for more children...or because I have planned our trip....or just because he wanted to??
I think it was bound to happen anyway. Heat of the moment etc. unless he has a history of sabotaging holidays, outings etc why would it occur to you that this was him trying to control you?
Primal urge? Maybe he's sick of not being able to finish properly. My other half would hate it if I told him he wasn't allowed to finish inside of me all the time. There's also the possibility he wants another baby already. That he doesn't want to wait. Maybe he likes you how you are and if you fall pregnant you can't loose the weight. Could be multiple reasons you really need to talk to him and find a kind of birth control that works for you. Maybe a diaphragm?
Thanks for this. I read it earlier...and I did....I had a chat....in short - he felt like it! lol. Sometimes I just totally don't understand men! lol. We have been together for 10yrs and he still surprises me!!
I'm glad you guys could have a chat about it. Sometimes they do surprise us. And that's ok. :)
Morning after pill and condom next time ... men dont think women need tooo .. confusion equals morning after pill ...
Fact your still having sex says your body is still probably smoking to him haha pill prevent ha