I am at my whits ends with my almost 7yo daughter. I feel absolutely horrible saying this but I just cant parent her. I have no connection with her and we clash like no ones business. I don't understand how I can feel like this towards a 6yo. I feel like I dont like her. I wake up and feel like the fight has started already. I do not enjoy her at all. I feel like with her is a constant struggle and the thought of spending the next 10+ years living under the same roof as her has me worried. I don't know how to change the way I feel/act towards her.
I have 2 children and do not feel this way towards my eldest (son). I feel like a failure as a parent and human most days
How do I get past this so our house isn't constantly on edge.
I just feel so lost :'(
I don't like my daughter!
I don't like my daughter!
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Hey mummy I don't have any advice but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I felt the same way about my youngest for a few years, and I know how hard it is to want to change it but not know how. Lots of hugs for you.
Time to get professional help for both of you. A child psychologist can help you change the dynamic by understanding how you interact and breaking the cycle.
I don't know what to say, but I know my husband feels similarly about our youngest (3 year old daughter) a lot of the time. So you aren't alone. She is difficult and while she sucks up to me, she will turn from Angel to crazy in a split second and seems to go out of her way to hurt hubby's feelings (refuse to give him a hug at bedtime, or say goodbye etc). She is manipulative, because in front of others she is sweet as pie to him and everyone else and at home she will then go into a meltdown if he says 'OK, you won't give me a hug goodnight, I guess you miss your cuddle then.' Because that is then on his terms not hers.
No advice sorry, but sympathy!
Hi mumma, firstly I just want to say you are very brave for admitting this. I too have struggled with my eldest at times I think because he is most like me. You do love her but as you said you clash, seek help and do everything in your power to build your relationship. Spend one on one time doing special things together. She's only little once and you will blink and she will be all grown up. Good luck mumma xx