This may be difficult for some, but why are parents not given more information about what to do in the event of a miscarriage? Last week I was informed that I was going through a missed miscarriage. My baby had stopped growing 2 weeks prior and was booked in for a curette in 4 days time. At no point were we told what to expect to happen, or what to do, should my miscarriage progress naturally before my curette. It certainly isn't the sort of question I thought to ask after being given this devastating news. That same night, I was in a tremendous amount of pain, home alone, and blood pouring out of me. My first instinct was to stay on the toilet, I was in shock and too afraid to move. It wasn't until I rang my sister that she rang 000 for me and I was asked to sit on a towel to monitor blood loss. By midnight, my pain had stopped, no more bleeding. The hospital booked me in for a scan in a couple days time and sent me home believing that I had passed my baby into the toilet.
Night two, the pain started again at 8pm. Not as bad, but I knew what I needed to do this time. I stayed calm and continued to change pads while my husband rang the hospital. 4 pads filled in 25min and one massive clot.
But my point is, that if I knew what either the ambulance or hospital needed to know, I would have been prepared and monitored my blood loss as required. I would have been in emergency just once, not twice.
I apologise if this is upsetting for anyone, but I honestly believe my whole situation would have been easier to handle had we been given all the necessary information. I can only hope that this post reaches other parents and prepares them for this unfortunate situation.
Miscarriage info - more of a rant
Miscarriage info - more of a rant
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I hear ya :-( so sorry for you loss. My situation was very similar. I was 15 weeks along..no one told me at my 7 week (dating)scan they couldn't see anything!!! Wasn't until I went back for 12 week scan we found out I had a blighted ovum...no body booked me in for anything.. I had the weekend to see what would happen! Well on a Tuesday morning home alone with two young children. I was screwed!
Same thing happened to me, I ended up dropping my daughter at day care and driving myself to the hospital where they sat me in the waiting room for 3 hours in unbearable pain and losing my baby in the public toilet. Was certainly the worst day of my life and I had no clue what to do
Not having gone through it, thus having no advice, just virtual hugs and wishes that this may never have to happen to another family. Best wishes for the future xxx
OH MY GOSH!! I could have written this! I miscarried early September at 8 weeks, it was my first ever pregnancy.
I started bleeding the week prior, ultrasound said it was too early to tell what was happening but my HCG levels were rising so it looked promising, when I was still bleeding a week later another ultrasound showed an empty sac and my levels had stalled, that afternoon my hell began, the bleeding became ridiculous and so did the pain. I called my gyno who was going to be the obstetrician (I've been seeing him for years but after this I won't step foot in his office again) and asked what was I supposed to be doing, he said there's nothing that can be done I just have to wait it out... That's it... "Wait it out"... I hung up the phone still feeling even more lost than I was before that conversation and turned to good old Google, I stumbled across photos of what a miscarriage clot at 8 weeks looked like- 2 hours later I passed it.
I was still in pain and bleeding a week later so ended up in emergency (looking back I know I was silly not to go there in the first place but I figured there's nothing they can do anyway so I may as well be home in my own bed where I'm comfortable) and another ultrasound confirmed everything had passed.
I called my gynos office in tears and told the receptionist I miscarried, she said "sorry to hear that I'll cancel your appointments then".... Her tone was cold, like it was just an everyday thing to her which I get that it is but to me it isn't. Especially after being told I'd never be able to fall pregnant.
There was nothing in his 'welcome' pregnancy paperwork that said what to do in the event of a miscarriage, I had no idea the hospital could have taken samples to try and find the cause. I just had no idea...
I'm very sorry for your loss.