Update on going to have a melt down
I'd taken the advice of the mums who commented and did what they said. It backfired on me completely. I txt all the brothers and sister to please come and help us sort the house out. The sister txt back and said okay but then rang me later while I was at the shops and said that she wanted to call me so there wasn't a missunderstanding and nothing got lost in translation? I'm assuming she thought that I either sounded nasty or abrupt in the text but I read it over 4 times before I sent it to make sure I put it VERY delicately and nicely as possible. I then found out when my partner got home that she had called him and told him about it and he said to me to leave it to him to do all that stuff! If I don't do it it won't get done!!!
This morning I woke up to find the cats had taken multiple shits on the dining room table. They weren't... solid... either. I was dry reaching the whole time I was cleaning it. Then I discovered Mr 3 had gotten into the chocolate milk mix and drank the whole damn tin! Chocolate powder everywhere!!!
The house is a disgusting mess. I can't stand cleaning it anymore. It never makes a fkn difference. The laundry is piling up because it's been raining for 2 weeks straight now and I can't dry anything.
Help me mammas I'm drowning here!! :(
I'm not happy :(
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Sorry I missed your first one, but I suggest you need to speak up. Tell your husband hoe you feel, that youre drowning and not coping and to support you getting help, not tell them not to.
Call your sister back and tell her your husband won't do it all and you're drowning and not coping and would really appreciate her help.
It's Ok to not be on top of everything. Make a cup of tea and go and sit outside for 10 and breathe. You deserve it after cleaning up that cat and cocoa explosion!!
Sorry but they are all being arses and I'd be packing my kid up and leaving them all to it, if hubby won't support you on this one. Yes you shouldn't have to make threats etc but seriously it's unsanitary and dangerous to have your toddler around that shit.
Cats and dog to the RSPCA and don't take on more until you have the time to fulfill their needs. Siblings have been warned. Give them a date that their shit will be out the front and if it's not picked up that day it goes to lifeline or the council tip. Sometimes you just can't be the nice guy because so many other people are fucking assholes that will take advantage. Involve your 3 year old in what you're doing. At that age mine would help with the dishes (I'd leave him the plastics), he'd help sort the washing before it went in the machine and he'd pass me the clothes and pegs when it was time to hang it on the line, he'd help with dinner ("can you put this in the rubbish please?" and "could you get mummy a carrot from the fridge?" type tasks), he'd collect the dog and cat food bowls and help measure the food out. I hate when it rains too much, we have one airer for inside and no dryer but in an emergency there is a laundromat in town. If you need a dryer, get one. As for your partner, I think he needs to spend some time fending for himself to appreciate just what you do. My partner does his own washing, cooks his own meals, prepares his own lunch, makes his side of the bed and shares washing the dishes and has done so for the past 19 years. There's no room for bitching when your partner is in charge of his own shit. You know that whole tin of chocolate drink that got drunk and spilled, we've all had that so laugh it off and put the next tin up higher so Mr3 can't get it. It's sweet and yummy and he doesn't understand that makes it a sometimes treat. For cleaning check FB for cleaning hacks, for instance I struggled with our shower always being disgusting. It didn't matter how much I cleaned it or how much I paid someone else to clean it, it was always scummy on the walls with mould on the floor grout, three weeks ago I threw out every bar of soap and put in shower gel, it took me a week to get all the soap scum off but it has stayed away now I just need a wipe down every few days with a glass and buffing cloth and I scrub the floor with bleach once a week for 5 minutes and the shower is sparkling, tomorrow I'm going to try the bicarb and lemon juice grout cleaning paste for the rest of the bathroom. I know it feels like a never ending circle but as long as you can make the changes you need to get the house livable, don't worry about fanatically cleaning it, get out and have fun with your 3 year old before he's in school and you've missed your chance. He won't remember that there was dirt on the skirting boards or dishes on the sink but he'll remember raiding the toolbox with mum for zip ties and making bubble blowing wands from them, he'll remember the day mum bought a face painting kit and painted a wonky half dog/half gargoyle looking creature on his face and he'll remember mum having the time to stop for an hour to watch a movie with him every once in awhile.