I have been speaking to friends and colleagues lately and many have mentioned they sleep in separate beds to their partners.
Is this common? How does it affect your relationship?
I really struggle to sleep with my husbands snoring and feel like having separate beds/rooms would help but am worried that it is not "the normal".
Edited to add: those who do have separate beds, how does it work? Do you each have your own bedroom set up? Does one sleep on a spare bed?
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Why worry about normal? Do what works!
Give it a try, if it doesn’t work don’t do it. It might be that you don’t sleep separately every night either.
We sleep separately. I snore due to sinus/tonsil issues and I'm also a night owl. He snores (but won't admit it), sleep walks and talks and is restless as hell as well as going to bed by grandpa standards 😂. To be honest, sleeping apart has improved our relationship because we're not shitty and resentful with each from disturbing one another's sleep.
We still spend quality time together with a cuddle and watching some telly together in his bed every night, then I head off when he's ready to sleep and read or chill til I'm ready for bed.
Forget "normal", you do what works!
We have a 2yo and newborn and we sleep apart most nights.. we start off together and after a few hours my husband goes into the spare room either with our toddler or leaves the toddler in our room so that his alarm doesn’t wake our newborn and he sleeps semi okay before work.
It has no negative impact on our sex life and right now it’s what works for us to keep our sanity :)
I have slept separate to my husband for years. I'm the snorer, he is a light sleeper. He likes early nights, I tend to stay up later, he would get so cranky because he'd wake up when I came to bed. If we want couple time, I go to his bed for a while.
We used to sleep in separate beds. I used to snore and he would wake me up (constantly lol) so we both weren't getting sleep.
I had surgery to remove a hernia and my snoring stopped! So now we're back in the same bed, but didn't have any issue on our relationship.